October is ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) Awareness Month. Therefore, we will discuss the symptoms of ADHD and focus more on ADHD in adults. How does ADHD influence us, what about getting assessed, and how can therapy support an adult diagnosed with ADHD?

What is ADHD? 

ADHD is one of the most common neurodevelopmental disorders in children and adolescents, with symptoms present in 3-10% of school children. ADHD is three times more common in boys than girls and is usually passed on into adulthood. However, diagnosing ADHD in adults is more difficult since they have learned to mask their symptoms. 

ADHD symptoms

ADHD is characterised by poor impulse control, difficulties concentrating, restlessness, fidgeting, tics, and hyperactivity. Dr Gabor Matè has stated that ADHD is not a disease, but a byproduct of not getting our attachment needs met in childhood. Genetic risk, metabolic diseases, immune disorders, infections, physical trauma, toxic environment and neglect may contribute to ADHD. It may be associated with other mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, dyslexia, learning difficulties, developmental disorders, and speech and language disorders. 

Early childhood environment

For young children, there is a need for attention and emotional regulation, the importance of attuning to the child, being present with them and offering physical and emotional security. Children are more vulnerable to environmental stressors, sensitivity to the environment, and not being soothed when distressed. A stressful childhood environment with no consistency or predictability creates a lack of trust, possibly leading to zoning out or a 'freeze' response as a coping mechanism, making the pain more bearable. 

Moreover, schools or other systems we operate in may be trying to fit children with ADHD into society's norms, ignoring their needs that are different from the 'norm'. However difficult it may be for the teacher or other professional to attend to everyone's needs, it always comes a long way. Including parents or caregivers in treatment plans is equally important, offering the child the appropriate support for healthy development. 

ADHD in adults

Untreated ADHD can impair work performance, damage self-esteem and interfere with relationships. It can also reduce the chances of success and satisfaction in life, leading to substance misuse and distracting yourself with other activities rather than sitting with the pain. Studies show that the brain retains neuroplasticity throughout life. The brain continues to develop new pathways and synaptic connections to environmental stimuli. Meaning without the change in the environment, the brain cannot create new circuits of the mind relating to self and the world. Having ADHD doesn't mean there is a flaw in one's personality. There may be distress, loneliness and confusion that the adults may be unable to express. Separation of the mind and body, where the mind keeps wandering in another direction. Sometimes, the person can be highly interested in certain motivating activities. 

What can therapy offer for adults with ADHD?

Therapy offers a safe space to explore any difficult feelings or triggers. It allows you to explore your patterns and behaviours and make sense of your inner experience. It is important to note that a therapist is not qualified to assess you for ADHD but can guide and support you in your process. 

How can music therapy help with ADHD? 

Oliver Sacks, neurologist and author of Musicophilia, has said: "Nothing activates the brain as extensively as music". Music helps to relieve tensions and express yourself through play. Sometimes, there is no need for words. Music has its own pulse, rhythm, breathing and movement. As music evokes different emotions, you start to gain clarity about the processes within yourself in a safe environment and by reflecting on your experiences with a therapist. 

This type of therapy involves cognitive, emotional and social processes. The treatment uses musical interventions to support concentration, self-expression and social skills where the relationship between client and therapist is at the centre of therapy. However, creative activities such as free improvisation, listening to music, songwriting, movement and art can be used alongside words. Through these activities, the therapist guides the client towards specific therapeutic goals. 

1. Providing structure

Providing a framework through regular weekly sessions creates predictability and safety that you may lack in your daily life. It forms a boundary from where you can start to explore your emotional and behavioural patterns with the therapist. The client's self-confidence and sense of achievement can be supported and enhanced through goal-oriented activities. 

2. Safety and self-expression

Feeling safe is vital for growth and healing. From this environment, you can start to understand yourself better. Moreover, self-expression is one of the core values in music therapy. Music is a way to express yourself and convey and understand your emotions. Sometimes, expressing yourself through non-verbal means is safer and more accessible than words, finding new ways of relating and having fun with it. Expressing yourself in a way that feels comfortable and right for you. 

3. Supporting focus

Playing music or other forms of self-expression supports attention skills, where we pay attention to the body and mind. Listening to music activates the whole brain compared to speaking. Purposefully playing a musical instrument, writing songs, singing or listening to music can help you concentrate better and help make new neural pathways in your brain. 

4. Supporting social skills

Music and the arts offer opportunities to support communication and find new ways of interacting. Creative activities help to communicate in a more accessible way where no words are needed since we don't all communicate in the same way. Making yourself heard, validated and accepted in a therapy space helps you implement these skills outside the therapeutic relationship. In therapy, looking at and understanding your parental relationships and family history helps to make sense of your experience and create awareness. 

Getting assessed for ADHD as an adult in Berlin 

ADHD assessment is done by a psychiatrist or professional with the appropriate qualifications. Getting a diagnosis can be a source of relief and helps to validate your experience. Although some people prefer not getting an assessment for ADHD because of stigma or personal reasons. However, a diagnosis will help you get the appropriate care you need and enable you to adapt your school or work environments according to your needs. 

Conclusion

Not everyone's brain works in the same way. Offering compassion, listening and being valued for who you are goes a long way. In addition to learning about your emotional and behavioural needs and patterns in therapy, we may also explore parental relationships and family history. It can be terrifying to sit with your mind but doing that in a safe and trusting space can make all the difference. 

Contact me here if you think you or your loved one would benefit from counselling or music therapy. 

Please note: If you are in a severe crisis, thinking of hurting yourself or others, then call 112, and professional mental health workers will be able to help you. Arula Counselling is not designed to offer help in immediate mental health crises.